As long as one is keeping the value of their things in perspective as to how it relates to them.
It's when people own something and they think it's the greatest thing in the world and they think that everyone else thinks the same. A status symbol if you will...and it goes to their head.
That's when the show begins.
Had a relative that bought an exotic car in the 90s for about $70K. They thought is was EVERYTHING. And they thought everyone else thought the same of the vehicle and by extension thought the same of him.
Turns out, NO. Everyone doesn't think that.
He tried to put it on the market in 2010 for $85K. It sat at the consigning dealership for three years with an interest at $45K. No sale. Then the dealer finally had to ask them to remove it from their show room but they'd continue to market it.
2017 comes along, still no sale. They lower the asking price to the aging, rusting, mouse infested heap to $75K. Wasn't that considerate?
2019 comes along and it's still not sold. And financial ruin is on the door step. A loan taken out on the vehicle is behind and the loan company wants to pick up the vehicle.
Three days before this is scheduled to happen (I found this out a couple months ago) they tricked a naive friend with their retirement savings to buy the vehicle for the $15K loan value in addition to lending them ..... (ouch) $40K additional on top of that, PLUS somehow have him replace the roof on their home and do their lawn maintenance last summer, the likes of which they are also trying to sell for ridiculous amount. Hasn't sold since the 1 1/2 years it's been on the mkt with no offers.
It's interesting as things that in one decade or generation that were thought of as desirable or exclusive; in the next decade are close to junk status.... and the people who get caught up holding the bag still thinking they are on top of the world if they own those things.
Bmw, mercedes, kitchenaid dishwasher, maytag washer dryer, kirbys, pool table, traditional wood furnishings, fine china, tennis courts.... these are just some of the things when I was growing up, that were "hot". Now, talk to resale shops. Some of these things they won't even take for free because they can't sell them. Other things have moved down in status and are just considered a middle of the road brand.
And since 2018 I've learned what a narcissist is and how they operate. It isn't fun.
If you are around someone who is not anchored well in reality but they try to "look normal" you want to have your dealings with them limited or not at all.
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